How To Become An Inspiring Leader
November 13, 2020
The true meaning of cold cannot be understood until you have had the pleasure of living back-to-back in two states like Michigan and Massachusetts as I did. On one unusually cold day, even by Boston standards, I was eating lunch in the UMass Boston Student Union. I struck up a conversation with what appeared to be an older student, and I found myself with an opportunity to learn the difference between charisma and inspiration.
We exchanged life particulars when suddenly the conversation became serious. He sized me up as a suburban African-American, coddled and protected from the realities of the street, living in Dorchester, trying to deliver some type of intellectually impotent Christianity as a solution to the real problems facing poor people in a racist city without any hope.
This was no student, which is something I didn’t discover until the end of the conversation. He went on to say a number of things, but what I remember most clearly was when he said, “I can take you places where you will see real life, addicts who have repeatedly injected themselves with drugs using the same dirty needles until their limbs are swelled up with infections so toxic their arms are nearly twice their original size.”
I was known for my extemporaneous debating skills, but on this winter day, his voice of experience silenced me. He was not mean, nor was he threatening or in any way unpleasant. He was pointing out to me the difference between charisma and inspiration.
I was entering a city plagued by the pain of poverty and racism selling personality, attempting to use relatability and charm to win people over. He was on the street working with people, living their pain, freeing them from the social traps and prisons cutting off their hope.
He was leading with inspiration. I was attempting to lead with charisma. Humbled by this unforgettable experience, I walked away ashamed, and I have never been the same.
Stop Making Excuses For Being A Bore
“Boring leader” is an oxymoron, or at least it should be, along with “boring spouse,” “boring parent,” “boring teacher,” and of course “boring person.” Leaders above all should be inspiring.
An understanding of the difference between inspiration and charisma is essential in the battle against boring. There are too many who have decided they lack the charisma gene so there is no way they can be inspiring. This is merely an excuse to continue practicing the dark art of boring.
What makes leaders inspiring? Passion for their purpose ignites a fire within for which there is no extinguisher. The easiest thing for the dispassionate, aimless, tedious, and boring leader to do is to rationalize his or her lack of motivation by calling inspiring leaders charismatic. This insinuates that the capacity of an inspiring leader to move hearts is a gift rather than the product of humble learning, hard work, and an emotionally stirring personal example.
These masters of boredom discount the passionate fires of purpose that burn in the hearts of the inspired. They prefer to conceal their truth, which the descriptive words of Henry David Thoreau exposed when he wrote,
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” (The Portable Thoreau, 203).
Incapable of summoning the fires of passion for purpose, these boring leaders seek to extinguish the fires of those who do not live similarly tedious lives, lives Thoreau also described as being “so occupied with the factitious cares and superfluously coarse labors of life that its finer fruits cannot be plucked by them” (The Portable Thoreau, 197).
Charisma may be a gift from above limited to a select few, but inspiration is the fruit of a well-lived life. Boring leaders should accept this truth and get about the business of changing their lives rather than making excuses, for who knows that we are each in our position of leadership like Esther in the Bible, “for such a time as this.”
The Power of an Inspiring Life
Tomorrow I wake up and go from being a boy with Down syndrome to an Ironman– Chris Nikic
Chris Nikic is inspiring. Des Bieler tells his story in the Washington Post article, “Trailblazing triathlete isn’t letting Down syndrome prevent him from becoming an Ironman.”
Nikic became the first person with Down syndrome to complete a full, 140.6-mile Ironman Triathlon, making it through an event in Panama City Beach, Fla., in 16 hours 46 minutes 9 seconds. That was good enough to get him a listing in Guinness World Records and a salute from the Special Olympics, with which he has been involved for years.
Chris is not alone in his ability to inspire. Bieler tells the story within the story when he says, “Nikic’s journey to an unprecedented feat began with a father who did not want his son’s condition to be a hindrance.”
The Nikic family made an impact on Shane Facteau, the Ironman Group’s chief operating officer, who told Bieler he believes Chris personifies the Ironman spirit:
“He’s pushing the boundaries of what’s possible. He’s putting himself out there, and that’s something people need to understand,” Facteau continued. “He’s taking the opportunity, and there’s always risk in that there’s the chance of success or failure. We love to see people of all shapes and sizes do that.”
As a parent of sons with special needs, this story resonates and inspires me, but it is not limited to the disability community. Encased in this story of emotional endurance fueled by personal inspiration is a lesson for us all. We can learn from this story that inspiration is not about talent, but about the type of life we lead.
Inspiring or Charismatic?
“A second-class intellect. But a first-class temperament!”– Geoffrey C. Ward, A First Class Temperament
Washington D.C. is filled with historic landmarks and locations where history turned, many of which are not the White House or Capitol Buildings. One of them is the city of Georgetown. On March 8, 1933, this is where a retired, ninety-two-year-old Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes met newly elected President Franklin Delano Roosevelt.
Justice Holmes and President Roosevelt visited over tea. Their meeting lasted for about half an hour before the president left, then, as insightfully recorded by Geoffrey C. Ward in his book A First Class Temperament, “Holmes considered for a moment before rendering his verdict on this latest President Roosevelt.”
What was the verdict of Justice Holmes about Roosevelt? “A second-class intellect. But a first-class temperament!”
Mr. Ward, who writes history with a fiction writer’s attention to detail, explains the observation by Justice Holmes.
Holmes was a shrewd judge of men as well as laws. There were always wiser men and women than Franklin Roosevelt in American public life, people who were better informed, more consistent, less devious. But there were none whose power to inspire both love and loathing was so great, none whose political success or apparent self-assurance exceeded his.– Geoffrey C. Ward,. A First Class Temperament
President Roosevelt was an inspiring leader. His ability to inspire was often mistaken for the more superficial quality of charisma. President Herbert Hoover made this mistake right before Roosevelt defeated him to become president for the first of three terms.
Herbert Hoover was a proud man who despised Franklin Roosevelt for some of the same reasons Al Smith did. Like Smith, Hoover had earned, through hard work and applied intelligence, everything he attained in life.
He couldn’t see that Roosevelt had earned anything, and with the smugness of the self-made man he assumed Roosevelt was lacking in character and ability. He didn’t deny that Roosevelt possessed a certain charisma, but he considered charisma badly overrated—especially when it caused those who came into contact with Roosevelt to fall for the arguments he was making against Hoover’s administration.– H.W. Brands, Traitor to His Class
Herbert Hoover “assumed Roosevelt was lacking in character and ability,” because, in his mind, success had come to him too easily (never mind Roosevelt was wheelchair-bound due to polio).
Hoover delivered the typical insult of the uninspiring toward the inspiring: “He didn’t deny that Roosevelt possessed a certain charisma, but he considered charisma badly overrated.”
Reading on in H.W. Brands’ Traitor to His Class, we understand the motive behind Hoover’s negative charisma label. He was irritated when Roosevelt used this charisma, “especially when it caused those who came into contact with Roosevelt to fall for the arguments he was making against Hoover’s administration.”
Justice Holmes looked at a man capable of influencing and inspiring then credited his temperament. Herbert Hoover looked at a competitor capable of influencing and inspiring then labeled him as charismatic.
Hoover’s misidentification of inspiration as charisma is not uncommon, especially from those who lack both.
Why is this important? Charisma and inspiration are not the same thing, but we often confuse the two. Let’s concede that charisma is a gift. It is a form of talent, an infectiousness, an ability to attract attention, and it is neither good nor evil. But let’s distinguish it from the more important need to inspire.
Charisma: compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.– Oxford English Dictionary
Distinguishing between charisma and inspiration is as simple as reading the dictionary where charisma is described as a personality trait. Jeremy C. Young provides academic context and definition to the term charisma in The Age of Charisma.
For this reason, it may be preferable to use the anachronistic term “charisma” to describe the phenomenon in its totality. The ancient Greeks first used “charisma” to denote a special ability given by the gods; St. Paul used the word in a similar way but cited Yahweh as the ultimate source of the ability. The theologian Rudolf Sohm revived the term and introduced it into modern scholarship in an 1888 volume on church history.– Jeremy C. Young, The Age of Charisma
Mr. Young relies on the work of Max Weber to explain the modern manifestations of charisma.
It was the German sociologist Max Weber, though, in the late 1910s and especially in his posthumously published Economy and Society (1922), who decoupled charisma from religion and gave it its modern meaning.– Jeremy C. Young, The Age of Charisma
According to Young, it was personal experience which drew Weber’s attention to charisma. Born in 1864, he “experienced the phenomenon of personal magnetism firsthand.”
…Weber lived in a society controlled by leaders who wielded immense power over popular ideas and culture – though many of these German figures, such as Kaiser Wilhelm II and Chancellor Otto von Bismarck, were monarchical or dictatorial rather than democratic.– Jeremy C. Young, The Age of Charisma
Why refer to the academic work of scholars like Young and Weber? Problems of understanding are almost always rooted in our insistence in listening to our own experiences, rather than consulting the historical record, which academics do better than anyone. This brings us to the reason for this intellectual journey: Weber’s clear and substantial definition of charisma.
He defined the term as “a certain quality of an individualized personality by virtue of which he is considered extraordinary and treated as endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities … on the basis of [which] the individual concerned is treated as a ‘leader.’ ”– Jeremy C. Young, The Age of Charisma
Herein lies the problem with charisma. An individual without substance or expertise can become a leader on the basis of a personality trait or a gift like athleticism or intelligence. This position of leadership is often unearned, untrained, and given regardless of character or experience, all because of appearances, which is a well-documented problem in the Myth of the Strong Leader.
Moreover, the idea that charisma is a special quality a leader is born with needs to be severely qualified. To a large extent, it is followers who bestow charisma on leaders, when that person seems to embody the qualities they are looking for.– Archie Brown, The Myth of the Strong Leader
All of this is personal for me. In my youth, leadership was very much about appearances. I imitated personality traits of leaders who received attention and respect without pursuing the substance and experience that come from doing the deep work of character-building and motive-purifying necessary to lead.
I also ignored leaders of substance, instead giving the most respect to those who were as clueless about the dangers of charismatic leadership as I was. Looking back, I realize I chose to be mentored in the superficiality of personality-driven leadership. Until I was able to get the space and freedom to think about what I was doing, it was impossible for me to understand exactly what was happening.
What do I know now? Charisma is a personality trait and sometimes a natural gift, while at other times it is an actor’s affect used to give the appearance of leadership without any substance.
While it is undeniable that charisma can be beneficial, the dangers outweigh the benefits for leaders, because more often than not charisma that is absent of emotional maturity, spiritual awareness, and intellectual depth merely inspires devotion to the individual rather than building the institution where the leader leads.
The sacred text of Scripture provides incisive warning about charisma in Proverbs 31:30 (NIV):
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting…”Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)
This verse instructively teaches us there are no shortcuts to the enduring qualities necessary for healthy and effective leadership.
Before we describe what we see as the crucial difference between the early shapers of visionary companies versus the comparison companies (for we do think there is a crucial difference), we’d like to share an interesting corollary: A high-profile, charismatic style is absolutely not required to successfully shape a visionary company.
Indeed, we found that some of the most significant chief executives in the history of the visionary companies did not have the personality traits of the archetypal high-profile, charismatic visionary leader.– Jim Collins and Jerry Porras, Built to Last
Jim Collins is inspiring. Listening to him teach in person is to experience a force of nature uncommon to academics. When he writes about charisma being unnecessary to build visionary and enduring companies, it is not from the ivory tower of boring academic research, but an understanding that inspiration and charisma are two completely different things.
Let’s take a look at the definitions of our two words:
Charisma: compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.
Inspire: fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative– Oxford English Dictionary
Charisma is personality-driven, utilizing whatever gifts it may have at its disposal to ‘be attractive’ or ‘charm,’ all for the purpose of creating a devoted following for an individual or cause. The danger is it is often the charisma, not necessarily the cause, which has produced this devotion.
Inspiration is different. When we inspire, we provide those we lead with the internal motivation to take action. Devoid of personality, it is instead focused on the creative endeavor we are pursuing, be it political, spiritual, economic or otherwise.
Charismatic leaders make us dependent. Inspiring leaders empower us. When we are inspired, we are capable of recreating our sense of faith and vision without the charismatic individual.
The most effective leaders will learn to inspire. They develop 5 characteristics that allow them to inspire, empower, and make those around them better without seeking the credit or to be the focus of all that takes place or is built. This sounds attractive and simple, but it is neither. It requires transformation, so let’s take a look at these 5 transformational stages.
1. Emotional Maturity
Don’t run from tests and hardships, brothers and sisters. As difficult as they are, you will ultimately find joy in them; if you embrace them, your faith will blossom under pressure and teach you true patience as you endure. And true patience brought on by endurance will equip you to complete the long journey and cross the finish line—mature, complete, and wanting nothing.– James 1:2-4 (Holy Bible, Voice Translation)
Emotional maturity takes time, tests, and hardship. Whether we run from or embrace these transformative moments will determine our capacity for growth and our ability to increase in emotional maturity.
Emotional discovery is all the rage in the business community, which is a good thing, but without the depth of spirituality found in the Holy Bible, a true and deep understanding of our very necessary emotional journey will be elusive.
Spiritual people perceive the possibilities in difficult moments. Something deep down inside of their soul stirs them, keeps them moving forward, confident that this too shall pass, and once it does, they know their future will be brighter than their past.
Until we learn to embrace the process of becoming emotionally mature, it will be impossible for us to develop the complete character necessary to be an inspiring leader.
2. Sense of Destiny
I think he grew into a company builder. I know that is what he was worried about doing. He knew how to build insanely great products. He had to learn how to build an insanely great company and I believe he did that.– Jim Collins, CNN Business
When we learn to take the journey toward emotional maturity, we become capable of pursuing our destiny. In my view, we are endowed with a sense of destiny at birth. Developing emotional maturity gives us the internal strength and tenacity to pursue this destiny.
Steve Jobs is considered controversial by some, but for me he was merely human. He possessed strengths and weaknesses, was liked by some while disliked by others, and was made special by his pursuit of destiny, which he described in his now legendary Stanford Commencement Address as connecting the dots.
The connecting of those dots is described perfectly in a CNN Business interview with Jim Collins, where he told the story of how Fortune Magazine asked him to evaluate Steve Jobs as a company builder by saying, “How do you evaluate Steve Jobs as a company builder? Wrong question. How do you evaluate Beethoven or Picasso as a company builder? He is an industrial Beethoven and we have yet to see a ninth symphony!”
This interview is wide-ranging. Mr. Collins describes cold-calling Mr. Jobs to teach his class on company building in the late 80s, and how Jobs reminded Collins that he had been fired from his last company as he questioned why he was being asked to teach.
Mr. Collins talked about the fact that during this time people laughed at Jobs for his failure, that most people had written him off, but as he spoke with the students Collins realized, “This man is never going to stop, and he was never going to give up.”
After Mr. Jobs resurrected Apple from death to dominance, Collins said about Steve Jobs, “what impressed me is not the products but himself.” Jim Collins, the astute academic evaluator of company-building, was impressed by the fact that Steve Jobs had weathered storms, grown in maturity, and become more than just a builder of insanely great products but an insanely great company-builder, all because of his incredible sense of destiny.
3. Spiritual Awareness
Awe is the awareness of transcendent meaning, of a spiritual suggestiveness of reality, an allusiveness to transcendent meaning. The world in its grandeur is full of a spiritual radiance, for which we have neither name nor concept.– Abraham Joshua Heschel, God in Search of Man
Spiritual awareness is the acknowledgement that there is more to this world than what we see. If we find ourselves without a sense of destiny, the likely reason is a lack of spiritual awareness.
Abraham Joshua Heschel explains our daily experience with the spiritual in God in Search of Man.
The heavens declare the glory of God. Man is confronted with a world that alludes to something beyond itself, to a truth beyond experience. It is the allusiveness to a meaning which is not of this world, and it is that allusiveness which conveys to us the awareness of a spiritual dimension of reality, the relatedness of being to transcendent meaning.– Abraham Joshua Heschel, God in Search of Man
Courage is required to pursue meaning beyond this world, to allow an “awareness of a spiritual dimension of reality” to provide us with the transcendent meaning that illuminates our path and inspires a sense of destiny.
An underestimated quality of Steve Jobs, and one that made his transformation from product- to company-builder possible, was his spiritual awareness. Anyone who cares to read Walter Isaacson’s definitive biography of Jobs will come to this unavoidable conclusion about the journeys he took into the spiritual realm, and how they informed his view of company-building.
Throughout his career, Jobs liked to see himself as an enlightened rebel pitted against evil empires, a Jedi warrior or Buddhist samurai fighting the forces of darkness. IBM was his perfect foil. He cleverly cast the upcoming battle not as a mere business competition, but as a spiritual struggle.– Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs
When I hear the constant criticism of Silicon Valley for our lack of ethical compass, what occurs to me is that our company-builders have often copied much from Jobs without embracing what is arguably his most distinctive quality: to see beyond software and hardware to the beauty, elegance, and profundity of spirituality.
4. Intellectual Depth
Likewise, we’re asking you to see the success of visionary companies—at least in part—as coming from underlying processes and fundamental dynamics embedded in the organization and not primarily the result of a single great idea or some great, all-knowing, godlike visionary who made great decisions, had great charisma, and led with great authority.
If you’re involved in building and managing a company, we’re asking you to think less in terms of being a brilliant product visionary or seeking the personality characteristics of charismatic leadership, and to think more in terms of being an organizational visionary and building the characteristics of a visionary company.– Jim Collins and Jerry Porras, Built to Last (Good to Great)
Intellectual depth is not so much about intelligence as it is about our capacity to think. Countless intelligent and even brilliant people become leaders without learning how to think beyond themselves and about building a visionary company. If one were to read Collins, he has a number of characteristics more important than mere profitability or growth.
Visionary companies are built by visionary people who have the intellectual depth to probe their own motives for doing what they are doing and to consider the impact of their company on society and not merely their customers. This depth allows them to build beyond their lifetime, creating a legacy that impacts generations of both their employees and their community.
5. Passion for your Purpose
My passion has been to build an enduring company where people were motivated to make great products. Everything else was secondary. Sure, it was great to make a profit, because that was what allowed you to make great products.
But the products, not the profits, were the motivation. Sculley flipped these priorities to where the goal was to make money. It’s a subtle difference, but it ends up meaning everything: the people you hire, who gets promoted, what you discuss in meetings.– Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs
When an individual develops emotional maturity, a sense of destiny, and intellectual depth, a passion for their purpose will become their primary focus. The fires of those passions will burn away every distraction.
This does not mean everything becomes about building a company. One can see from a close examination of Steve Jobs that his family and close relationships meant the world to him. They, too, shared his passion for his purpose, and in many cases developed their own personal sense of purpose as well, which is exactly what an inspiring leader should produce in others.
In my lifetime, no year has been as turbulent, stressful, distracting, discouraging, uncertain, destabilizing, or difficult as 2020. And yet, in the midst of these storms, one thing seems true to me. Almost always in history, the darkest times are when the light has the opportunity to shine brightest.
What better time than now for anyone with a desire to make a difference to embrace the opportunity and challenge of becoming an inspiring leader. This is my choice. I hope you will join me.
My leadership notebook
The following are my handwritten notes illustrating my thoughts and ideas still in development. I’d like to give you a window into my thought process each week, in hopes that it will inspire you to unleash your own creativity and embrace imperfection.